and why it matters.

Photo credit:

They were tough. They carried all the emotional baggage of men who might die. Grief, terror, love, longing […]. They carried shameful memories. They carried the common secret of cowardice barely restrained, […], and in many respects this was the heaviest burden of all, for it could never be put down, it required perfect balance and perfect posture. […]. They carried the soldier’s greatest fear, which was the fear of blushing. Men killed, and died, because they were embarrassed not to. It was what had brought them to the war in the first place, nothing positive…

A lesson from my mom for Meghan Markle, myself, and everyone else

Photo by Rod Long on Unsplash

When my mom and dad started dating in the late ’60s, my dad lived in Milan and my mom in Padua, about four hours of train and two hours of bus, apart. History has it that the first time my mom went to visit my grandparents in Milan, my grandma Natalina did not let my mom through the gate because my mom was wearing trousers. Yes, blinded by outrage grandma would not welcome in her house her future daughter-in-law, after my then 19-year-old mom had gone through what at that time, felt like a transatlantic crossing.

My grandma Natalina

My grandma Natalina was…

E.A. Poe’s The Man of the Crowd is the man of our crowd, ahead of its time

Photo by mentatdgt from Pexels

What separates a masterpiece from the rest is its capacity to transcend time and space, the ability to paint with just a few strokes the permanent traits of humanness.

Written over 170 years ago, in The Man of the Crowd Poe gets its old Polaroid out and takes a shot of a man, a man just like you and me, and while he waits for the photo to dry, he speculates on what he might or might have not been able to capture…

#2 Everything and everyone is inflammable or sinkable

Photo by Jason Leung on Unsplash
  1. Sh*t happens, did happen, might happen, will happen, it is just the way it is. Holy s*it! That can’t possibly be true…
  2. Everything (and everyone) is inflammable or sinkable, given the right circumstance and triggers, everything can collapse, e v e r y t h i n g.
  3. Never underestimate the power of a small flame left unattended, actually never underestimate the power of small-anything left unattended, (anything can be the tip of a bigger iceberg).
  4. Triage, triage, triage. The guy screaming in the emergency room might not need as much help as the silent guy curled on the couch…

Including the restless relentlessness

Author’s spell check

I woke up at 6 this morning with a beautiful sun piercing through the window.

It took me an hour of internal combat to decide whether to butterfly out or just cocoon in, nobody won.

By 07:39 I had already swiped through 4 different overpromising yoga programs.

07:00, I wanted to try a new program Breathing with the Beats that combines asanas and drums, too much talking for the morning.

07:07, I was already lying my back on a bolster following the guidance of Lauren during restorative yoga.

By 07:14 I had turned to Bruce Chung

From my heart

Photo by Nick Fewings on Unsplash

Halfway down my street, there is a tiny pottery shop called Ema Mamisu, they are the cutest, they put heart and hearts in everything they make, that is where I bought this year St. Valentine’s cards. Five altogether, three for my family, one for my dearest friend, and one for, well, me.

This year, a text, an email, not even my face and voice could have filled the distance. …

There are lessons we need to take over and over again

Photo by Brandi Ibrao on Unsplash

2020 was exceptional by any stretch of the imagination. Nobody could have ever fathomed the degree of personal and collective loss, the magnitude of grief and pain. 2020 has exposed the fragile foundations of our system, economy, and overall social infrastructure, the vanity of our “certainties”, our egocentrism, 2020 shot us right there: where the spirit meets the bone. Right there and then, when you can no longer postpone lessons crucial to your survival.

Your body is infallible, almost merciless, at recording everything you can’t forgive.

2020 the year I understood

  • I understood that everything starts from the body and ends with the body. Our…

It would be funny if it wasn’t true

Photo by Laura Chouette on Unsplash

They say if you can’t fight them, join them. I say if you can’t fight them, get to know them inside out, and discover their Achilles heel. When dealing with narcissists, knowledge and self-awareness are your greatest assets.

The 10 commandments narcissists live by

  1. Everything and everyone can be turned into my narcissistic supply, ie anything that can reaffirm my sense of self-importance and grandiosity.
  2. Everything is my stage, right here and right now.
  3. Everybody is my audience, if you can not be the audience please make yourself useful with the lights, audio, and scenography.
  4. I am entitled…

Writing the biggest collective epic ever

The most liked photo on Instagram is the photo of an egg. Almost 55 million people took the time to press “like”; assuming 1 second per “like”, this equals a total of 1577 hours or about 66 days. Photo credit:

Is one image still worth a thousand words?

An image is probably still worth a thousand words, I am thinking for example at Sebastião Salgado Workers, I am thinking at painters and visual artists, at moments of happiness forever captured, but what about the 995 photos uploaded on Instagram every second, the 4000 uploaded since you started reading this article, and the more than 50 billion photos uploaded on Instagram so far? (Omnicore, October 2020). …

#1 Value over Perfection

Photo by Rodion Kutsaev on Unsplash

There are two types of people: those who work in sales, and those who think they don't.

I was a bit skeptical, the right word would be judgemental, about the entire cosmology of personal branding. What I understood about personal branding was that some Bamby-eyed people took their LinkedIn or Instagram profiles a bit too seriously and a bit too far, and managed to build fame out of the current global craving for hope, gurus, and God.

I was wrong.

Ms. Judgmental dug a bit deeper and changed her idea after binge-watching a series of TEDx talks on personal branding.

Cristina Comunian

Before the straitjacket feels comfortable again, I hit "publish".

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store