and why it matters.

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They were tough. They carried all the emotional baggage of men who might die. Grief, terror, love, longing […]. They carried shameful memories. They carried the common secret of cowardice barely restrained, […], and in many respects this was the heaviest burden of all, for it could never be put down, it required perfect balance and perfect posture. […]. They carried the soldier’s greatest fear, which was the fear of blushing. Men killed, and died, because they were embarrassed not to. It was what had brought them to the war in the first place, nothing positive…

From my heart

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Halfway down my street, there is a tiny pottery shop called Ema Mamisu, they are the cutest, they put heart and hearts in everything they make, that is where I bought this year St. Valentine’s cards. Five altogether, three for my family, one for my dearest friend, and one for, well, me.

This year, a text, an email, not even my face and voice could have filled the distance. …

There are lessons we need to take over and over again

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2020 was exceptional by any stretch of the imagination. Nobody could have ever fathomed the degree of personal and collective loss, the magnitude of grief and pain. 2020 has exposed the fragile foundations of our system, economy, and overall social infrastructure, the vanity of our “certainties”, our egocentrism, 2020 shot us right there: where the spirit meets the bone. Right there and then, when you can no longer postpone lessons crucial to your survival.

Your body is infallible, almost merciless, at recording everything you can’t forgive.

2020 the year I understood

  • I understood that everything starts from the body and ends with the body. Our…

It would be funny if it wasn’t true

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They say if you can’t fight them, join them. I say if you can’t fight them, get to know them inside out, and discover their Achilles heel. When dealing with narcissists, knowledge and self-awareness are your greatest assets.

The 10 commandments narcissists live by

  1. Everything and everyone can be turned into my narcissistic supply, ie anything that can reaffirm my sense of self-importance and grandiosity.
  2. Everything is my stage, right here and right now.
  3. Everybody is my audience, if you can not be the audience please make yourself useful with the lights, audio, and scenography.
  4. I am entitled…

Writing the biggest collective epic ever

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The most liked photo on Instagram is the photo of an egg. Almost 55 million people took the time to press “like”; assuming 1 second per “like”, this equals a total of 1577 hours or about 66 days. Photo credit:

Is one image still worth a thousand words?

An image is probably still worth a thousand words, I am thinking for example at Sebastião Salgado Workers, I am thinking at painters and visual artists, at moments of happiness forever captured, but what about the 995 photos uploaded on Instagram every second, the 4000 uploaded since you started reading this article, and the more than 50 billion photos uploaded on Instagram so far? (Omnicore, October 2020). …

#1 Value over Perfection

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There are two types of people: those who work in sales, and those who think they don't.

I was a bit skeptical, the right word would be judgemental, about the entire cosmology of personal branding. What I understood about personal branding was that some Bamby-eyed people took their LinkedIn or Instagram profiles a bit too seriously and a bit too far, and managed to build fame out of the current global craving for hope, gurus, and God.

I was wrong.

Ms. Judgmental dug a bit deeper and changed her idea after binge-watching a series of TEDx talks on personal branding.

Self-deception is as legit as any other coping mechanisms

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Psychology Today describes self-deception as a series of behaviors and believes that we adopt to defend our ego.

Say what, “defend my ego”? This alone sets off all my alarm bells and makes me want to run to the closest fire escape.

I try to punch my ego in the stomach every time she comes around, and this is after we have somehow come to good terms, why would I want to defend her?

Well, because sometimes an illusion is just as good as a dear friend, it is what I…

#1 Silence is golden

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We communicate to share, connect, and influence.

When we communicate we are silently tapping into our willingness and capacity to negotiate forms, meanings, and values.

Such negotiations lead to understanding and emotions, or a vortex thereof.

In a culture that is overloaded with information, effective communication has become imperative to elevate our exchanges, relationships, and collective human experience.

Here are the 10 commandments for effective communication I try to live by:

1. Silence is golden

If your words do not elevate thoughts, conversations, or people, please breathe in and shut the fu*k up.

I am not going to sugar-coat this, sorry (not sorry). Freedom…

(*) IT meaning anything that matters in our lives & collective human experience

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I am a big girl with a big question for the World out there:

When did we lose it*?

(*) It meaning anything that matters in our lives and collective human experience.

Was there a moment in time, maybe an avalanche gaining momentum? Or, was is it just a careless slow falling down, an atom-by-atom erosion, an innocuous drop of water that has made a hole that is now dragging us down?

  • When did we start becoming strongly opinionated and totally uninformed?
  • When did we start mistaking the wi-fi signal availability for connection?
  • When did we start lowering our gaze…


Six life lessons from assembling my first IKEA Bissa

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I am turning 46 in less than a month, I figured I could give it a try and assemble my first IKEA masterpiece, here is what I have learned in the process.


Life does not come with a manual, most IKEA furniture does. Read it and use it. Amen. At one point, you will murmur it is not rocket science and toss the manual, thinking you can hack your way through without directions, to then find yourself hours later digging into the rubbish bin.

Don’t let your ego silent or reject the help you are offered.

Step by step

There is…

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